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The freedom to home educate

The moment I held our new born daughter Inky in my arms, I already knew we were going to Home Educate. It was never a choice for me, I somehow just knew; call it my motherly instinct! A natural progression of parenting. Inky is almost 11, and we have not had any regrets, nor looked back since. When Inky was 8 she did ask to go to school and in the nature of our child led home ed journey, we let her go. 6 weeks later she realised the grass WASN’T greener and asked to come back out again. She found school extremely boring and it just didn’t suit her. We took her back out the moment she asked. Our family lives on the coast in West Sussex, and we are fortunate to have a large network of home educators in our area with whom we have regular contact and share concepts and ideas with.

Here in the UK, HE (Home Educating) is 100% legal. There is no legal obligation to send your child to school, but you must notify the school in writing if your child is registered at school or they will be marked down as unauthorised absences. You as a parent, have the right to withdraw your child from school anytime that you see fit. This is a simple process which involves sending a de-registration letter to the school, and your child’s name MUST be removed from the school register within a few days by LAW. No one knows the exact amount of children being home educated children in the UK, but estimates vary between 50-80,000. Many families choose NOT to register their child with the LEA (Local Education Authority), especially if they have never been in the system, as there is no obligation to do so, so the actual number of home schooled children in the UK is undoubtedly higher.

The reasons parents may decide to HE their child are varied. Sometimes they choose, like me, right from the start not to send their child to school. Or they may feel their child is not getting enough out of the national curriculum, or they were unable to get their child into the school of their choice, a child may be bullied at school, they may travel a lot, or a parent has a child with a learning disability that requires more personal attention than what public schooling would be able to offer, their child may have become unhappy at school, ask not to go to school, dislike learning since going to school, not seem ready for school… These are only some of the possible reasons parents may have chosen to HE, and in the end each of us must choose what we believe is best for our children.

To obtain more information on the legalities of HE in England and Wales, there is a great resource called Education Otherwise, you can visit their website at www.education-otherwise.org. You can find de-registration template letters here too, home ed groups in your area and the legal requirements.

Why are more people choosing to home educate

Reasons and Benefits for Home Schooling


Can Taking Children out of School to Home School be Successful

YES! The number of kids (all ages, whether primary or secondary school ) being taken out of school for various reasons to be home taught is constantly on teh rise. They are able to study subjects in depth, to learn from apprenticeships, work and travel. The independence they gain through being home schooled will be appreciated, especially if they have come out of school after negative experiences. They will have a lot more time to discover what they really love to do and are free to be themselves, no need to fit in to the crowd losing ones individuality. They are also going onto university.

As a parent, taking your child out of school indefinitely can give you feelings of excitement but can also be daunting. It is exciting to be able to have the freedom and responsibility over your child’s education. If you are confident, especially in the first year of home educating, this will be a big help in getting you through sometimes challenging times. The longer you home school, the more you think ‘why didnt we do this sooner?’ In 10 years of home educating (or unschooling/autonomously ‘educating’our daughter’ I have yet to meet a home school family who regretted their decision. In The UK you don’t need to be qualified to teach so don’t worry about this aspect of home schooling. Studies have proven that home taught kids test scores are consistently higher than those attending ‘normal schools’, regardless of their parent(s) education level. A study taken in the USA, showed that by the time home taught children were at the age for eighth grade, they tested FOUR YEARS ahead of children attending public schools.

Also notify your school in writing if or when you decide to take your child out of school permanently. In the UK you can remove your child(ren) from school at any time. Here is a TEMPLATE LETTER you can use. On this site you will also be able to find out all about the legalities of home education in the UK.


Our daughter had always been home educated until she really wanted to try school out. So she started Summer 2014 at age 8. She loved it at first. 6 weeks  later she begged to come back out. She was so bored, especially of doing phonics on a daily basis when she cpuld already read and write and hated the playground bitchiness. I didn’t hesitate for a second. I emailed them the template letter filling in the relevant bits and they de-registered her straight away.  I had the LEA (Local Education Authority) inspector come round for the first time ever in July just gone – the LEA weren’t aware of us before as Inky had never been in school) and he was amazed by Inky. We received a glowing report. I will be sharing it on here soon, watch this space!

Now your child is at home with you here are a few tips


* Immediately buy a full curriculum package
* Try and copy a school environment
* Expect your child to turn into an eager student overnight – the will to ‘learn’ may have been driven out of them for the moment. Schools give the impression that children need to be taught to learn, when in fact kids are natural learners from the day they are born.
* Assign a heavy work load to your child
* Set aims and objectives until the whole family has adjusted, especially when an older child is involved.


* Be patient with your child and yourself.  Give at least a few month plus for all family members to relax and get used to their new life style. As with all big changes in life time is needed to adjust.
* Find a local home ed support group. Here is but one link to help you www.educationotherwise.net. Google it too. We re members of several groups on Facebook where regular meet ups and events are organised.
* Put formal studies aside and let your child develop naturally in the direction their interests lay.
* Encourage personal interests


If kids have been in school for a long time, a school ‘detox’ is generally necessary. Some call the time time needed deschooling, or unschooling. School children are constantly being conditioned to obey and to not act independently. There are strict schedules of lessons and break times. Rather than learning what interests them, they are told what to learn to get good grades under a reward and punishment system. The longer a child has been conditioned this way, the longer the deschooling will take. They are not used to the sudden freedom they have to pursue what they love and what interests them in a loving, homely atmosphere. The quietness, the one on one attention will do them a world of good. Successful home schoolers are those who tune in to their children’s strengths and weaknesses, and create a course of home education tailored to them. When children are treated with the respect they deserve and are not separated from the families day to day life, but a part of it, learning transforms into a joyous experience.

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